How would you feel if you were the mum?
Personally I would be angry. Very angry.
This reminded me of a scenario with our daughter's hair and how my mum supported by her dad decided her hair should be shaved.
It was December 2014, We had gone to the village for Christmas holidays and I had plaited Anita very nice 'Dabrat' dreads.
At home she liked to play in the sand, water, grass and on a tractor that had lots of grease. Of course I din't like her making herself dirty but mum said I should let her be as she misses such atmosphere in the city.
Her hair got so dirty and unkempt so we had to undo it.
As usual combing it was drama and she kept crying while I did it.
Fig 3. Dad and mum undoing Anita's unkempt hair.
I have maintained her hair long since she was 3 months and this is how she behaves.
At 3 months my mum shaved her while I was asleep and it really broke my heart to see her bald.
But now I am determined to keep the hair come rain or sunshine.
I know it ain't very comfortable making it since its the African kinky type but once its done it looks perfect on her.
So her dad came and found her crying as I combed it and he could not bear the pain and suggested we should cut it.
My mum came in full support of the idea but I would listen to non of it.
It was a big fight as I vehemently opposed and said I would handle our daughter's hair and daddy should wait for when we will have sons and take them to the barber.
It became such a big fight that went on for some time. I got a nice salonist who cuddles her and plaited her gently till she sleeps. She has done the
She still hates salon time but her hair is growing steadily and becoming easier to handle.
I wont make promises of her not crying but will try and be most gentle with it.
'Mwanamke ni kuvumilia'
Fig.4 Anita's latest hair style
See what mums had to say on this lady's incident of the dad shaving clean the daughter's hair.
